Interviews With The Involved: Ducky DooLittle
About Ducky DooLittle:
With her unique mix of storytelling, humor and sex education, Ducky is considered one of America’s most celebrated sex educators. She has spent the last two decades working in the field of sexuality and continues to present sold out presentations on campuses, at medical schools, sex shops and anywhere else she can gather a crowd.
Ducky regularly volunteers her services to community centers, homeless youth drop-in centers, sexual assault crisis centers and anti-violence programs.
You may have seen her on HBOs Real Sex, The Morning Show, MTV, NPR, The Howard Stern Show, Playboy TV, to name a few.
Ducky is the author of Sex With The Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered and is currently the Education Coordinator for the New York Academy of Sex Education. She is also the Education Coordinator for the revolutionary adult retailer Tantus Inc, where she is responsible for maintaining and expanding key customer relationships through educational workshops.
The Interview With Ducky
1. As an advocate of sex positivity, what do you see as the single biggest issue facing advocates of sex positivity and safer, healthier, smarter sex? What steps do you think can be taken to fix this issue?
There are many issues. But one of the biggest one is that human beings are in a constant state of evolving, migrating, growing, moving… Just when you think you have a program or substantial movement in the field of sex education, a whole new generation pops up. They are effected by the world around them, the home they grew up in, the moral standards of politics and so on. For this reason there will always be a need for sex education and a push for sex positivism and openness.
2. What was the biggest struggle you overcame in the sex industry?
Other peoples feeling that I should be ashamed of myself. That’s there burden to bear, not mine.
3. If you could change anything you’ve done through the course of your career, what would it be? What is the significance of said event or period?
As imperfect as I am, I would change nothing.
4. Who is your favorite author, erotic or non?
There are so many… Katherine Dunn (Geek Love), Lynda Berry (Cruddy), Edward Bunker (Education of a Felon), James Loe Herlihy (Midnight Cowboy.) The book version of Midnight Cowboy was a simply paperback, a real product of it’s time. You see this in one very stunning sex scene written over the course of two pages, it is so expressively explicit without a single dirty word or mention of specific body parts. I was stunned by the beauty of those pages.
5. What is one thing you wish you could just explain to the world and have everyone understand instantly? Why would you choose that one thing over any other?
That bodies are beautiful, that beauty is really only enhanced by the person within.
6. Who in the industry inspires you? What about them does so?
Annie Sprinkle taught me that my voice is valuable and to not be ashamed of who I am or where I come from. Susie Bright has given me her time, experience and taught me to be a smarter business person. Metis Black (Interview With The Involved: Metis Black)has validated my worth and depth as a sex educator. Cory Silverberg is a beautiful, critical mind in the world of sex education and always tells me the truth. I am lucky to have each of them in my life.
7. What do you wish someone would have taught you when you were just learning about sex and sexuality?
My upbringing was very complex. As a youth I just worked hard to care for and protect myself. That was my relationship with sex and I did a good job of it. But I am tickled to find that at 43 I am still learning and growing. As an individual and as a sex educator. But then sex education is a practice. If you are going to have integrity, you need to continue to study and be awake in your own experiences.